“We’re easily seduced by the notion of stable character.
So much of who we are, how we think, and what we do is
driven by the situations we’re in, yet we remain blissfully unaware of it.”
— Sam Sommers
Situations Matter is an excellent book that should give you a leg up in life.
One of the lessons of modern psychological research is that ‘the situation' we find ourselves in influences us. If you've ever wondered about why you are not as independent-minded as you think or about the difference between men and women this is a great book.
A summary paragraph:
So much of how we see and interact with the social universe around is shaped by our immediate context. … seemingly trivial aspects of daily situations determine whether we keep to ourselves or get involved in the affairs of others, whether we follow a group or stake out on an independent path, why we're drawn to certain people and away from others.
As Sam Sommers points out, “once you start paying attention to situations there's no going back.” Sommers argues, “People are easy to see. They're tangible. Context is harder: it's an abstract, nebulous concept, a backdrop that can be downright invisible. Precisely because situations are difficult to see, effort is required to recognize their influence.”